Topic: Daily Eruptions
I have always disliked that Tripod's icon for "chillin'" was a pill. It looks, though, like I've come around to another place in my life where chillin' might really be the equivalent of taking a pill. I've been worried for a couple of weeks that I was hitting another depression as a result of the move and the pressure it's put on my relationship with Hans and my own personal issues. Last Friday I was pretty near hysterical when I called my mother-in-law to ask for her help in dealing with Hans, and it's pretty clear that this is not a sit-under-a-sunlamp or pop-a-St.-John's-Wort level depression. Hans thinks I've sunk pretty far in, but I know for a fact that I've been deeper in than this. The point is that I don't want to let it get any worse, so I called today and made an appointment to meet with a woman next week to get some help. She will have to refer me to someone else if she thinks I need a prescription, but I've never used medication for depression before and I'm hoping I don't have to start now. My first impulse last Friday had been to call my general practitioner for an antidepressant, but then I took a bipolar questionnaire on my health insurance website and that made me think twice. Anyway, research has shown that 30 minutes of exercise every day is as effective as any of the antidepressants on the market; the challenge is setting up a system that will get me to actually do the exercise.
I'm not looking forward to the therapy thing again. It is so hard and so painful, and the irony is that depression by itself makes it hard to get tasks accomplished and a therapy session can shut me down for a whole day. There were times in college when John would have to drive me home after a session because I couldn't drive myself, all I could do was cry until I finally fell asleep from exhaustion. And when I was in Seattle, Carron would always schedule me off on the day I was in therapy because it was like I was swimming in Jello and just couldn't keep up. So. Definitely not looking forward to any of that, and just a tiny bit resentful that I'm going through it alone for the first two months instead of starting couples counseling right away. I'm sure Hans thinks he has my best interests at heart when he says I need help, but I can't help it that hearing that from him makes me think Stepford....
As much as I'm dreading the experience, I also know it will help. It saved my life in college and it helped me transition back into "real" life after the Big Ride. I'm hoping it will help me move forward on some of my bigger goals, now that I have a better handle on what I want to do with my time on the planet this time around.
And I plan on being proactive. When I went into my first counseling session in Seattle, I surprised the counselor by taking in a four-page baseline self-evaluation that I wrote up to orient her to my situation and to help me determine exactly where I was in the depression (the bottom line: I was non-functional). Today I wrote up a list of questions that I would like to explore in the sessions, and made a chart of the issues that need long-term work and those that need immediate attention. I don't want this work to be as much about figuring out what happened in the past to get me here as it is about how do I propel myself forward in the right directions now. I may be in depression again, but that does not mean I'm in the same place I was when I was diagnosed in college. As in all aspects of life, you cycle through some phases over and over, but all the while you are moving in an upward spiral, so even though the phase has the same name, you are in a completely new space. I like this space. I am surrounded by good people and good circumstances, and I know more good is on the way.
Thoughts captured by Kristine
at 11:17 PM EDT
Updated: Monday, August 8, 2005 11:48 PM EDT